The Right Question
Posted by Jacinta Hin on June 23, 2009
Ever find yourself stuck between choices? Often there’s a deeper question lurking in the background, waiting to be addressed.
Some years ago I was making myself miserable thinking I had to choose between my home country and my adopted country. It felt like an impossible choice to make; yet I believed everything depended on making the ‘correct’ decision. Backwards and forwards went the options in my mind, as if I was playing a never-ending, game of unwinnable Blackjack.
Eventually exhaustion forced me to take a break from this charade. And guess what? That’s when more interesting insights began to surface.
It slowly dawned on me that the real question was not ‘where’ but ‘how’ I wanted to live. I longed to feel free wherever I happened to be.
Somehow my bossy ego-mind had translated my restlessness as a sign I had to either move back home or make a firm commitment to my life in Japan. It was pushing me to make up my mind for once and for all.
Once I allowed my heart to have its say, a bigger realm of options opened up. This restlessness was no longer a sign of weakness, but a source of energy. It seemed as if my game changed from a dull pack of cards to an intriguing quest-board.
And so I stayed right where I was, and began to live my life as a journey.
If you are lost as to what direction to take, you might in fact be trying to follow the wrong map.
Take a step back and look around for the right one. Switch your perspective and scan the horizon of opportunity until new thoughts float up, until you experience a sense of relief, a fresh bust of energy and those wonderful aha moments.
They are indeed out there waiting to be discovered anew.
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