Perspective on Choices

Posted by Jacinta Hin on November 20, 2008

Sometimes we find ourselves stuck with the choices we made. Yet undoing them is hard.

Walking away from a situation we created ourselves undermines our values. We believe we owe the people who are affected by our decisions or feel we are obliged to stick to them. The list of why we cannot overturn our choices is long.

Even if we know a change would be good, we don’t move and as a result we might feel desperate or depressed. Whatever is at work emotionally, such negative feelings tend to blow our experience out of proportion.

Often we also do not know what we want instead.

While we try to figure out why we are unable to change our mind, or what the alternative would be, one strategy is to change how we look at our choices.

In other words, forget about what brought us here and let go of the idea that we have to change something.

Seeing ourselves and our situation in alternative light lifts our spirits. It provides new meaning and allows for new experiences.

We might even find the answer as to why we made the choice in the first place.

And before we know it our new-found energy gets us unstuck and moving in new directions.


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  1. jaap kroon November 29, 2008 1:57 pm

    you have turned into a remarkable woman, with clear idea*s of live .
    quite a succes, although sometimes difficult.

    best regards

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