How To Open Up

Posted by Jacinta Hin on October 14, 2010

When life gets chaotic, and what once worked stops having meaning, we tend to shut down and retreat into the safety of what we know. Some literally lock themselves up in their homes, or dive headfirst into feel-good activities. Others hang on to daily routines and the apparent security of a status quo that renders them unable to move.

While all may seem fine, eventually these survival strategies will stop working their magic. You realize that sticking your head in the quicksands of a life gone stale is just a waste of precious time. You start longing for something else, hungry for a new direction and the return of your zest for living.

But how?

The first step to making a change is becoming open to the idea of a new outlook, and the possibility of a different course. Open to the idea of letting go of old paradigms and ways of being, and examining both difficult to face truths and hidden aspects of yourself that lie side-by-side in the treasure room of your soul.

Here are 5 ways to get started.

1. Get back to school. Make yourself a course of self-study without exams. Be curious to learn but without any specific goal. Create a curriculum of spiritual, psychology and philosophy-based tools that excite you.

2. Let go of the need for complete answers and explanations. Instead, be guided by questions and riddles. Accept that life is full of mysteries, not all of which can be solved.

3. Challenge your daily routine and habits. If, for instance, you tend to dominate conversations, be quiet for a day. Try out a new habit like you would a new hairstyle, or a different type of fashion.

4. Get out of your head. Ask yourself how you want to feel, what values are truly important to you and start exploring ways to live them from different perspectives.

5. Maintain an open mind, despite feelings of discomfort. Accept that opening up is an awakening process that goes hand in hand with occasional turmoil and distress.

Remember to feel safe in the knowledge that what you are going through is life flowing its natural course. When you realize something has to change and begin to open up to a new approach, anxiety of not knowing what’s ahead gets mixed up with sadness about losing what you once thought was yours forever. It is normal we feel confused and want to close our eyes.


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2 Comments so far
  1. Marija October 14, 2010 3:10 pm


  2. Angela Jeffs ( October 30, 2010 6:20 am

    Wonderful to see this up an running Jacinta, especially since it came out of an exercise in the Level 2 course that involved coming up with new ways of using writing in your life. Very cool.

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