A Day at a Time

How would you like to begin seeing challenges and creating change as manageable, step-by-step processes?
This is what I do to help my coaching clients move from overwhelm into overview, so that they learn to focus on what’ possible now. This way they also start to trust that whatever they do today can open the door [...]

Soul Eyes

Are you looking at life through the ego’s eyes or those of your soul? Don’t be surprised when your experiences and perspectives change depending on the view chosen.
The ego is needy and rarely satisfied, always thirsty for more of those short-term highs. It’s often bossy, judgmental and wants you to take an opinionated stance.
Its restlessness [...]

Stepping Back

Ever found yourself enmeshed in a sticky situation and needing to do something about it? Before making any decision or taking action, it’s often best to step back and see the bigger picture.
When you’re too closely involved your feelings and emotions can dictate your behavior, making it even more difficult to find a way out.
Sometimes [...]

Praise for the Positivity Blog

I read a lot of blogs and newsletters on self-improvement and self-discovery. I follow famous professionals I admire, people I know personally, and a few life-coach and self-development enthusiasts who also happen to be insightful writers.
On busy days I just glance through or even delete the lot without reading any, knowing tomorrow will bring me [...]

The Art of Disappointing

Tweeting on Twitter.com I came across this quote by the fabulous Cheryl Richardson:
You cannot live an authentic life without mastering the art of disappointing people (with grace & love).
I shared this little gem of wisdom with a client and a friend. Both are dealing with conflicted feelings about how people around them are reacting (negatively) [...]

The Right Question

Ever find yourself stuck between choices? Often there’s a deeper question lurking in the background, waiting to be addressed.
Some years ago I was making myself miserable thinking I had to choose between my home country and my adopted country. It felt like an impossible choice to make; yet I believed everything depended on making the [...]

From Discouragement to Encouragement

It doesn’t take much to bring someone down.
We dismiss ideas using dampers like “that will never work”, or we disqualify what was just said with the ‘but’ word, often followed by a discourse on why we know better.
We steal a person’s spotlight by interrupting them midway through their story and take over with our own.
We [...]

Why Do We Compare?

We compare all the time.
We watch someone deliver a speech and think they’re not in the same class as someone we saw earlier that day.
We observe a person’s achievements and conclude we would have done a better job.
We look at where we are in our career and believe we’re falling behind the people we started [...]

The Flow of Stress

Sometimes I slip on banana skins of anxiety and stay down for a while, unable to get back on my feet. I go for walks, consult trusted sources of wisdom, even eat the right food; but am unable to snap out of it.
It’s a profound and painful state that finds me always unprepared.
I can choose [...]

The Right Direction

It’s always interesting to watch people who’ve finally figured out where they really want to go in life, begin moving in the opposite direction.
You ask them about their future and they describe in great detail where they will be and what they will be doing. Their whole being comes alive. If you would hand them [...]

Themes

“Goals are boring”, I thought while in the middle of a proprioceptive writing exercise. “What then, should I work with instead?”I asked. “How about themes?” came the response.
That got my attention.
Goals work well for many people, but they just do not excite me.
I enjoy being on the road towards the peak, but the peak itself, [...]

The Unique Gifts of Others

One way to look at the people in your life is to understand the one key quality they bring you.
Some people inspire, some people teach you something, and some really see you for who you are. Other people have a calming effect, or take care of something for you.
The list is long and not limited [...]

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