Jacinta is a career & life coach supporting individuals through their career and life transitions. With her unique spirit, experience and wisdom, she is able to guide her clients through their difficult, challenging or crisis moments.


Loose Ends

Posted on December 28, 2007

Nearing year-end I make a list of loose ends. The list is long. I am a master of unfinished business. My email inbox is full of messages that need responses. Numerous activities I once was passionate about are being neglected, as are some relationships that are in dire need of attention and clarity. I still need [...]


Posted on September 26, 2007

I have to make an important decision and am at a loss as to which way to go. Every time I work through it logically and systematically I come to different conclusions. All scenarios have pros and cons, and depending on what perspective I take each outcome makes total sense. When I put this decision [...]

A Matter of Attitude

Posted on September 13, 2007

Once a month I travel by train to a small provincial town about two hours away from Tokyo. I always take the same route, but the other day, for some reason, I decided to take a different one. Bad idea! The express train I had counted on had no empty seats left and I was [...]


Posted on September 6, 2007

Whenever I get defensive I know I am hitting on something I need to work on. It’s very likely something I don’t want to deal with. Probably something that requires me to face some harsh truths. It almost always takes me by surprise. A casual comment, often well-meant, can trigger a huge offensive on my [...]

Going with the Wind

Posted on July 17, 2007

I am spending four days on a beautiful tropical island in the company of a group of windsurfers looking for wind. Staring over the ocean they analyze, look for clues, come to conclusions and make calculated guesses about wind circumstances at other beaches beyond eye reach. They are accomplished surfers who master the art of [...]

What I Really Want

Posted on June 27, 2007

This morning I wrote down some things I want for myself. Reading it aloud I realized it was not exactly what I wanted, so I changed the words until they felt right. Actually, it was not just a matter of wording. I went a couple of inches deeper, turned up the volume and got down [...]

Comebacks and Bigger Games

Posted on June 10, 2007

This week I saw the legendary band the Red Hot Chili Peppers play in Tokyo’s largest stadium. It had been a while since I was at a sold-out mega concert. The moment I entered the premises I was in for an amazing experience. The band was superb, the massiveness mesmerizing, but what fascinated me most [...]

Bittersweet Distractions

Posted on June 1, 2007

“So what is holding you back” my coach asked me. “Fear and self-doubt” I wanted to reply, reluctant to confess the less glamorous truth. Over the past few days I could have worked out my goals for the coming months, finished an article and started on a coaching program I plan to develop. Instead I [...]

On Course

Posted on May 25, 2007

“Wherever you look, that is where you go” says my windsurf buddy Pieter. He is explaining a new technique to me he just tried out which resolves around mastering this windsurf basic. A nice metaphor for life. Staring out over the ocean, I wonder in what direction I am looking and realize I am not [...]

Confident or Arrogant?

Posted on May 20, 2007

Over lunch the other day my friend explained how arrogant he was before coming to Japan and that his experiences here have really humbled him. He went from a big body to a nobody to a somebody. Today he operates from confidence. He feels confident about who he is and in what he does. Yet [...]

Retail Meditation

Posted on May 16, 2007

I left the planet for the afternoon. I went shopping with a girlfriend for an outfit to wear for an upcoming formal party. In the midst of a busy workweek, I abandoned all my duties and roamed the galaxy of dresses and shoes. An afternoon of pure delight. No other thoughts than those related to [...]

A Way of Being

Posted on May 7, 2007

While I am enjoying an ice-cold beer after a day of sun and windsurfing, I watch my fellow windsurf-club members laughing and joking around. I am utterly content because today I finally booked a long overdue lesson and learned a basic yet critical for my progress technique that I had been afraid of trying. Since [...]

Outside Our Head

Posted on April 27, 2007

“I must get out of my head!” my friend proclaimed. I immediately realized I needed to do the same thing. I bet chances are you too have a tendency to walk circles inside yours. Inside our heads is usually where we are when things are not really happening for us. It is a cramped little [...]

Love Your Questions

Posted on April 21, 2007

I love questions. I love asking them and getting them. In fact, asking questions is what I do for a living. For me, the best conversations are full of questions. Questions, when asked with genuine curiosity, are invitations to investigate and verbalize thoughts, and give birth to new thoughts and perspectives. They are also a [...]

Mission Impossible

Posted on April 13, 2007

Today I accompanied my friend to the tax office for his corporate tax filing. In our mind this was going to be a mission impossible, a task that really needed to be outsourced to experts. Over 50 pages of documents the tax office had sent in advance did not reduce the feeling that we were [...]


Posted on April 6, 2007

When is the last time you stood still and looked at yourself from a distance? Regardless of how busy, balanced or bored we are, we all have a tendency to go through our days on automatic pilot. We blindly follow our habits and keep looking at happenings with the same perspective. We do things in [...]

On Top of Things

Posted on March 30, 2007

“I am so on top of things” my friend Richard has been declaring all day today. Since we both work from our homes, I often work at his place. Today I indeed witnessed him flying through his to-do list with a level of assertiveness, determination and focus I have seldom seen in him before. For [...]

Despair and Doom

Posted on March 18, 2007

Many of us live with a sense of despair that we are stuck with the consequences of choices made in the past. Although we have a desire for change, we belief it is too late, that we missed the boot and need to stick it out. With time passing and age progressing we feel that [...]

Complementary Labels

Posted on February 6, 2007

This morning I caught myself labeling people. I was sitting on the train playing my favorite game to pass the time during my many Tokyo commutes: looking at the people in front of me one by one and passing judgment – she is pretty, he is boring, he has no style, she is plain, he [...]

The Art of Asking

Posted on January 24, 2007

Many of us are champion wheel inventors and lousy askers. I became aware of how bad we actually are while reading “The Aladdin Factor” by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen of chicken soup for the soul fame. This gem of a book explains about the importance of asking for what we want, how we [...]

And/and versus Either/or

Posted on January 14, 2007

I set my alarm clock for 700am this Sunday morning to go windsurfing. I had even prepared breakfast the night before and figured out the bus times that would get me from my country house to the surf beach in the shortest possible time. I was all set. Then I woke up around 530am in [...]

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